So is there? What is my problem? Or is it even a "problem"? Is it a
condition... or is it just who I am? I think a lot of introverted people
have asked themselves these questions before, but I don't know that many
ever come to a REAL conclusion. I'd say most just "push through" towards
extrovert-ism and find a way to maintain. So is this blog about me? Yes...
but it is ALSO about other introverts and what they really feel.
I know, at least for me, despite the fact introverts enjoy keeping to
themselves, they still NEED people. Introverts still can get very lonely,
but at a much different level. Introverts like to KNOW there are others
around, but they still want to be kept by themselves to recharge.
Keeping to ourselves as introverts is basically peace and recharging time.
As a whole, I personally do not enjoy being with other people unless I have
had time to recharge. It is naturally calming to just be ourselves without
having to, however much, act a certain way.
Introverts are only truly themselves when they are comfortable in their
surroundings. Due to the fact introvert's place of preference is being
alone, I'd venture to say that they are not truly themselves around others.
It takes energy to perform socially and this energy dwindles at different
rates for different introverts. I know for me personally, I can, after
recharging, be comfortable around a group of people, depending on how large
it is, for approximately 20 minutes. Does that mean I can not force myself
to stay? Of course not! And despite the fact energy runs away from
introverts in social environments, this does not mean introverts can't have
a good time with others. It DOES mean, however, introverts will be
emotionally drained and possibly stressed by the end of the day.
Extroverts on the other hand... they take all our introverted energy away!
They LOVE people!!! For extroverts, every minute is a party of some kind.
As soon as work or school is over, time to txt up some friends for a get-
together! For introverts, this is often the LAST thing we want to do.
Can introverts be better or become more comfortable around social
environments? Yes! But there is still going to be a lot of stress involved,
no matter who the individuals are. Single relationships with others,
however, are very different from groups of people. Introverts do not need a
group of people to maintain their contentment, but typically only one. I
for one can actually recharge in one on one activities. Another above that,
well... the real "me" just isn't there.
Introverts simply desire other things. They are typically deeper in thought
and emotions. Do introverts still desire intimacy with another person?
Actually yes, and I would venture to suggest introverts are much more
intimate and passionate in a one on one relationship (whether sexually or
not). Due to the possibility that introverts are deeper, this only suggests
introverts MAY have a deeper care for others. (This also could be why they
prefer to keep to themselves to avoid any possibility of hurting or
disrupting the homeostasis of a fellow extrovert OR introvert.
Do I believe introverts are crazy? No. I personally belief that introverts
simply have different comfort zones and desires than extroverts.
It is funny, I was just talking to a manager at work today. After asking
her what her passions in life were, she responded with two answers,
"Cooking" and "reading". I simply replied, "Those are the LAST two things I
would put on my list of passions!"
The fact is, everyone has different passions and comfort zones. Us
introverts still love you fellow extroverts and we always want you
around... but we still like to keep to ourselves! =)
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